There are usually some darn good reasons why you don’t have what you want.
See if any of these reasons sound familiar to you.
1. It will be too hard.
You may have convinced yourself that there is no way what you want will be easy to accomplish.
2. I can’t afford it.
You don’t have the money now and you don’t see it happening anytime soon.
3. I don’t deserve it.
This one has many layers. Maybe you don’t feel like you aren’t good enough. Maybe you see others who don’t have as much as you, so why should you be happy and not them.
4. It will take too long.
You know to get what you want won’t happen overnight. Maybe you think you should have started earlier and that it’s too late now.
5. I don’t have any support.
You feel like you have to do it alone and that no one understands what you want or even why.
6. No one has ever done it before.
You don’t even know if it’s possible because as far as you know, it’s never been done. Or maybe it’s against the “rules” in your family or tradition.
7. I don’t have the time.
You may be working full time, taking care of a family or aging parents, and feel like there is not enough time left for your own wants and desires.
8. I don’t have the energy.
Perhaps you have a little time you could carve out but you are mentally and/or physically exhausted by the time you take care of everything and everyone else.
9. I’m not good enough.
You don’t feel like your work or what you have to offer is everything it could be so you’ll either wait until you get better or maybe you’ve resigned yourself that you will never be ready.
10. Someone has already done it.
Maybe you see other people doing what you’d like to do but have convinced yourself they are much more talented or knowledgeable so there is no room for what you have to offer.
At one time or another, I have used all of these reasons and more.
Sometimes it can be hard to look at our reasoning and what we believe about ourselves only to realize that our own beliefs are holding us back or keeping us stuck.
It’s much easier to feel like there are forces beyond our control that are keeping us from what we want.
In the next several weeks, we will look at each of these reasons to see if we can change some of our self defeating beliefs.
Do any of these reasons ring true for you?
What else would you add to this list?