Empowering you to lead a joyful and creative life

This article is a continuation in the series of 10 Reasons Not To Have What You Want.

The idea that No one has ever done it before might be a good thing.

It may be that you have such an original idea that no one else has ever thought of it before.  Great!  You may get to be the first.

It may also be that you just don’t know if someone else has tried what you want to do and didn’t follow through.

The biggest reason that this could be stopping you might be more that you don’t know what to do or how to do it since you can’t find any role models before you.

In that case, you get to make it up as you go along.  Who is to say there is a right way or a wrong way?

You may want to try brainstorming some different possibilities and approaches for your dream.

If you can, get at least one person, and even better yet a group, to help you explore possibilities.

Once you have narrowed down your ideas and choose the one that sounds the best to you, begin breaking things down and determining what your very next action could be.

You may need to do research or look at some other industries or areas to get information.

Be sure to keep a notebook or journal of things as they occur to you.  Start thinking about people that you may want to ask for help or that could direct you to some answers.

It may seem like a daunting task to be the trail blazer in an area but if you see it as an exciting adventure and you are willing to experiment, you’ll figure out a way.

Actually, those are good qualities to have regardless of your situation.  Allowing your curiosity to take hold and being open to what lies ahead will be more exciting than to look at it as a scary unknown.

Maybe you’ll go down in the history books as being the first one to figure it out!

This is continuing the conversation in the series “Ten Reasons NOT to have what you want”.

You feel like you have to do it alone and that no one understands what you want or even why.

It is hard to accomplish things by yourself. Why? Because it takes discipline and dedication. It takes hard work.

Sometimes you don’t feel like you are getting appreciation for a job well done. You may thrive on getting a pat on the back and recognition.

Often your own family or friends don’t really understand your dreams or why you want to do them.

In their eyes, they may be trying to protect you from getting hurt or disappointed, but instead make you feel like you aren’t good enough so don’t bother trying.

It’s easy to get swayed and distracted and pulled in a different direction when your dreams are fragile.

The solution is to find your own circle of support. If you can make it easier, why not?

It is easier when you make a commitment to show up to do your work. It is easier to have like minded people who can help you through your challenges and help you celebrate your successes.

The beauty of our interconnected world is that even if you live in the middle of nowhere, if you can find an internet or phone connection, you can find support.

Here are a few ideas:

Find a friend who is trying something of their own

Find a discussion group with an internet search

Take a class

Find a coach

Start a mastermind group

Find or start a meet-up group in your area

You don’t have to be alone. Support is just a click away.

The other night my husband and I decided to explore in our own town. We drove about 20 minutes south and felt like we were in the mountains. The curving roads were lined with pine trees and it felt like a mini-vacation.

We stopped at The Village at Castle Pines to see if there was a restaurant we’d like to try.

It was evening and most of the shops were closed. One of them caught my eye that looked intriguing called The Garden Path.

The sign still said open and we went in to have a look.

It turns out they really were closed but hadn’t changed the sign yet. We were about to leave but they were very nice and insisted we could look around.

It was a lovely floral and gift shop with beautiful things, and of course gorgeous flowers. One thing we noticed was there was an easel in the corner of the shop.

We asked the owner if she was the artist.

It turns out that the artist is a long time friend of the owners and when they moved their shop to a bigger space, she asked (or they asked her) if she would like to set up her art in the corner.

It is a wonderful win-win situation for the artist, Cheris Liedel, and the shop owner. Along with their beautiful flowers and gifts, they can offer her pastel paintings and cards.

It gives the artist exposure and a place to work. And she also helps them when they need an extra hand, like when they get a big order for corsages.

Is there a complimentary space or place that would be a great fit for your work?